Saturday, September 01, 2012

The Return to Nor-Male: Prose and Cons and Options for Me and You / The Hardest Part






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The Return to Nor-Male: Prose and Cons and Options for Me and You / The Hardest Part

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Wow.

What a ride.

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"And the hardest part,
Was letting go, and not taking part,
It was the hardest part,

And the strangest thing,
Was waiting for that bell to ring,
It was the strangest start..."


- Coldplay, "The Hardest Part", (X&Y)

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I miss everything that I had and should have, but based on the results I see, especially the lack of stalking and nervous, needy and creepy behaviour by both sexes and people casually saying hello everywhere no matter where I go on some "oh yeah that stuff" level, it may have been worth it.

People are very sensitive and communicative in a non-verbal way these days.

In fact, most people prefer to interact with me on that level as opposed to more formally at this point. It's like it's our little secret, except nearly everyone knows it. I get knowing looks and vibes and signs that will often communicate far more than normal conversations can today, so that is good news.

People seem to be better able to resist more of their selfish and predatory urges these days.

Despite the fact that I get more casual credit for acting normal than for anything else, or for helping people relax in more normal ways, ironically that is only because of the public speaking-reference point that people have. It is a strange situation, but one that could pay dividends as nearly everyone feels the same.

People are the same and mostly want to make a little love, a little money, a few mistakes and relax.

Sometimes I have conversations, like an older lady who started talking to me at a bus stop about how she didn't feel as safe as she used to traveling downtown since she watched the news and was worried about muggings, gropings and sexual assaults and more. I said hopefully men will keep and eye on her and other ladies and we're working on that and gave her my card with my website. From what I could tell she knew who I was and was alluding to things, so I was alluding to them back and that happens quite often.

People are in the mood to talk around things when they can't talk about them; or signal their understanding.

Unfortunately, since I have taken the last few weeks off to recover and look for gainful employ since I didn't get the financial support I needed to match the moral support I was getting from people, things that I could help prevent by speaking up and against them and presenting people with options that can help them deal with it instead of just normally accepting the ways things are may be flaring up again. This is just one public example, but there are probably lots of others that don't get the publicity that should be dealt with soon.

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Four more sex assaults reported downtown

The Canadian Press | Globe & Mail | Friday, Aug. 31 2012

Toronto police say four more victims have come forward after they issued a public warning about a string of sex attacks against women in a downtown neighbourhood.

http://www.theglobeandmail.com/news/toronto/four-more-sex-assaults-reported-downtown/article4512119/

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Naturally the Krista Ford tweet about who women should dress is getting more news than anything else, but that's not going to help. Regardless of how a woman wants to dress or what she wants to do, in most cases if a strange man is bothering her and no other man wants to help her, she's in trouble and maybe men too. This is especially true today in our quiet culture where people are often scared to ask for help or say anything to strangers and both sexes are in the same boat if people continue to act selfish, predatory and crazy.

That's why I was speaking up so loudly and proudly as long as I could.

Anyway, I am still asking people to donate to support me since there is a lot of money in this city and people work hard for it and I worked hard for theirs and had a significant impact improving their quality of life while seeing mine go down the tubes. After hustling for odd jobs I landed a full-time one and will start soon, but this is taking my brain out of the game, or no matter what happens and what people are doing to each other, if it is not "normal" to talk about it then I won't be able to either or I will risk losing everything again.

There is an interesting wrinkle to this that I built into the process that can come in handy .

By now, at least in Toronto, I am very recognizable for my efforts everywhere even when I am not saying or doing anything thing different or particularly presentable. This may mean that the bigger my profile gets the more people will respect what I have said and relax and get along better. I am basically a visual reminder of the response to behaviour that nobody particularly liked, which basically amounted to people bothering each other too much including strangers. People can either choose to leverage or lose this brand if they wish.

That is up to them (see below) and I can do my part, but for now I return to nor-male and wish you all well.

Peace,

Vij

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Coldplay - The Hardest Part

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http://youtu.be/1Tp0r9197uo

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Public Speaker

Helping people out as a public speaker who shares good relationship advice with lots of people at once so they see each other and feel empowered enough to use it works. Hundreds a day say hello, which is why I continue. With no hat to take donations, people can simply donate anonymously to say thanks.

TD Bank Account Number: 3058-6062898

Patrons of the arts have always existed and today people often donate to support independent artists finishing albums and more. As someone who positively influences our culture by sharing ideas that help men and women relax and get along, I appreciate your help so that I can continue to evolve this approach.

Thank you very much and I look forward to hearing from you.

Yours,

Vij

Vijay Sarma
Ask Vij Consulting
647.781.1580
vijay.sarma@gmail.com
Helping you figure out... WhatYouWantToBelieveIn.com

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Thursday, August 30, 2012

"I just hope that you miss me a little when I'm gone..."





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"I just hope that you miss me a little when I'm gone..."

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Hello Normalville,

Just a quick head's up, while everyone everywhere I go still says hello in casual ways, even places I have never been before like today, I am still sorry to report that I haven't received any donations yet from the million or so people that I have helped relax and get along, which is unfortunate but understandable.

Sorry to make this about me, but if I don't then I won't exist, or at least the public persona that explains things to nearly everyone that nearly everyone nearly everywhere I go knows, or the persona I created who handles things that nearly everyone can't but that nearly everyone wishes were handled anyway.

After all of the overwhelmingly positive feedback from an overwhelming number of people who had trouble saying or doing anything about their biggest problem, or men and women falling apart and harassing each other verbally and physically on a regular basis, and after trying and failing to solicit formal conversations to explain things, I was counting on this anonymous donation approach working and people saying thank you and keep it up so I that could stay in business and I still think it can happen.

If it does, then I can use the large amount of money I receive from large and small donations to find much better ways to promote better ways for men and women to feel better and empower each other more consistently since that is what I have been doing on my own dime and it has been working.

If it doesn't, then I will be unable to continue, or maybe I will in a different form, and to quote Drake:

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"Yeah girl it’s on,
You know what it is when I finally make it home,
I just hope that you miss me a little when I’m gone,
Yeah I hope that you miss me a little when I’m gone,

And you just tell me what you down for,
Anything you down for,
I know things have changed,
Know I used to be around more,

But you should miss a little when I’m gone,
I just hope that you miss me a little when I'm gone, gone, gone..."


- Drake feat. Lil' Wayne, "Miss Me", (Thank Me Later)

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If I had the resources then I would smash all of this emasculating and de-feminizing B.S. to bits, or at least give people some options to deal with and to reject it if they want to and many seem to.

Heck, even without them and just blowing through my own I am doing a great job based on the evidence I see and point out that people casually and consistently respond to as I am explaining it.

I also know thanks to the media coverage that a poor beautiful blond girl who went on vacation in Europe and hit her head and wound up in a coma without travel insurance raised $130,000 for her treatment and flight back to Canada. This is a great sign of humanity in people and a good thing to happen and I am glad it did and that she may be alright.

All I need is for people to donate that kind of money to me for their own self-interest so that I can continue to feed back to the the ideas that are working to help them relax and get along better.

Frankly, I don't care about anything else unless I have to since it's 2012 and I am on point and rocking this funky joint, so whatever, it is what it is. I know what to do about this with what I have and get.

Just today at a cafe after running into a friend and being joined by others, I was explaining things while tons of people were casually saying hello by looking over and politely and briefly acknowledging me while I politely and briefly acknowledged them back, or flirting a bit like many of the girls do.

People are surprised at how simple and easy I make obvious solutions to common problems it has been working, or men are acting less and less like women and consequently bothering women less and less; while women are relaxing and acting more feminine and respecting their relationships more, among other improving situations. People are reacting to me explaining this in sheepish ways like they know it was happening and in many cases want to forget, so hopefully they can as long as the vestigial remnants are brought under control and not allowed to flare up again.

Therefore, before I fade away into non-existence after leaving the downtown core and not returning on a regular basis for a while, I am still requesting that people make it cool to financially support me in my efforts.

Nobody has to do anything except react to my efforts if they want to, which is what has been happening.

If I have to act normal then I can't do this like normal people can't and nothing will get done about it, or hopefully people can simply build on what has been accomplished so far on their own and with others.

Of course, I can act normal, but that simply means I can't help lots of people since most normal people don't want to and I won't be able to if I have to act normal and ignore horrible stuff becoming normal again.

Most normal people probably don't really want to just suffer, ignore and complain instead of explain when it comes to the issues I am dealing with, but they're stuck doing that anyway absent other options.

If things flare up again and they are unable to deal with them like most normal people are, then so be it. I tried my best, or I tried something that worked anyway, which is good enough isn't it? 

I guess we'll find out.

Finally, to avoid the time it takes to write these blogs and hopefully have a better impact and either share these ideas or keep them for posterity, I am doing a series of audioblogs to explain what I have seen, learned and done and how it works to share with a bigger audience.

I have seen people falling apart and bothering each other in similar ways in Ottawa, Toronto, Mississauga and other parts of Ontario, Atlanta, Detroit and Florida, so I assume that similar solutions will work. All I have to do is explain the techniques and anyone can do them.

Or, maybe not, who knows?

Either way, if it doesn't happen and I can't do it, then I just hope that you miss me a little when I'm gone...

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Drake - Miss Me ft. Lil Wayne

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http://youtu.be/TRLSQDCkcaA

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Public Speaker

Helping people out as a public speaker who shares good relationship advice with lots of people at once so they see each other and feel empowered enough to use it works. Hundreds a day say hello, which is why I continue. With no hat to take donations, people can simply donate anonymously to say thanks.

TD Bank Account Number: 3058-6062898

Patrons of the arts have always existed and today people often donate to support independent artists finishing albums and more. As someone who positively influences our culture by sharing ideas that help men and women relax and get along, I appreciate your help so that I can continue to evolve this approach.

Thank you very much and I look forward to hearing from you.

Yours,

Vij

Vijay Sarma
Ask Vij Consulting
647.781.1580
vijay.sarma@gmail.com
Helping you figure out... WhatYouWantToBelieveIn.com

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http://whatyouwanttobelievein.com/

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Wednesday, August 29, 2012

Dear Ladies: Support Your Man Supporting You and Your Men / Stand By Your Man



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Dear Ladies,

Thank you for being very supportive through this process which started off over a year ago around Canada Day in 2011. At first I started saving you from a ridiculous epidemic of stalkers because I didn't know if they wanted to rob, rape or kill you, so it was more of a principled thing as a male of the species defending any female from any other male randomly attacking her for no reason no matter how big or small the stalkers were. Hopefully more men will take this attitude in the future. Wouldn't that be great?

I am only 5' 10" and 165 pounds, but I can walk like a man, talk like a man, fight like a man and run like a man, and I have had to do all of the above to save you from stalkers mainly in Ottawa and Toronto and encourage other guys to do the same, or at least to stop stalking you.

For example, when a 6' 5" / 300 pound guy is stalking a 5' 2" 100 pound girl, or a guy at least three-times her size plus the male/female threat difference and is staying behind her on purpose and matching her step-for-step to maintain a close proximity while making her clearly look and feel uncomfortable or even run away by walking much faster than she wants to without clearly seeing him behind her and knowing what he wants when he isn't saying anything... then I can't just watch it happen and try to say or do something every time while risking my life.

When it went from 3 or 4 a day to 300 or 400 a day it didn't matter, it still needed to get done and I got louder and louder about it and related issues, but it also affected everything else I wanted to do and who I am.

I also know that when I have decided to stalk guys who were stalking you just to teach them a lesson, no matter what I am saying and even if it is the most angry or threatening or humiliating stuff ever, they always feel less scared when I am saying something then when I am not because at least they get a sense of who I am and what I want even though they can't see me clearly while I am clearly following them and matching them step-for-step to intimidate them as opposed to just coincidentally being behind them.

Since most male stalkers are bigger and stronger and silent and you ladies are unsure of their intentions it can be worrisome, but you ladies have been very brave in supporting my efforts to deal with them and say all sorts of stuff while trying to shut this down in a much broader way than merely dealing with the immediate situation. You also have an idea that most of them are not your typical too-much-porn or robber-raper-killer stalkers and I have said this and everything else in front of thousands of you, but I'll get into that later.

Frankly, as I have said many times,  if 8-foot tall 400-pound werewolves existed and were stalking men like men stalk women and men didn't feel they could react or confront them aggressively to stop it for fear of something worse happening to them, then men would be scared out of their minds and crapping their pants everywhere. The fact that women are holding up fairly well is a testament to their strength and courage.

While we never discuss it formally, you ladies don't seem to mind me saying stuff about this around you and everyone else and have been very supportive by casually saying hello, flirting, communicating and agreeing with different ideas and so on, including publicly in front of tons of people who watch me like it's TV and hopefully and apparently learn a thing or two. You gave me credibility with your men as well, otherwise I would not have been able to say anything about it when nobody else would and frankly would probably be dead or in jail by now. Thanks to you ladies, the people and the people in charge of security wherever I go let me continue to say and do stuff to stop this when nobody else is saying or doing anything and it is having a positive effect, or more men and women are relaxing and getting along better than before.

I also know that unlike you I don't have to try to charm a guy bothering me, or you for that matter, though I have seen you do it a bunch of times and I hate seeing you lose your dignity to get out of a sticky situation.

I am not saying you should stop because you don't want to risk getting in a fight with a strange man you don't know. I am saying that if men are bothering you then it helps to have men looking out for you, which is what I have been doing and what I encourage other men to do in general.

While it is taking a while, at least more of them aren't bothering you, so that's a plus.

Of course, like any person you can piss us and each other off in formal situations, but informally when you are usually just walking around and minding your own business and often in the mood to show off and get some credit for it while having fun with others, you shouldn't be harassed by random men all day and night who you don't know and have no business with.

I also know in downtown Toronto since before last Christmas, most of you have gone from dealing with over 100 stalkers a day to less than a dozen a day on average due mainly to my efforts and the efforts of those who listen and react, or men and women choosing to relax and get along instead. So, that's great news and the reason to support these efforts.

The fight is not over and there are still a bunch of stalkers out there, including middle-aged guys stalking teen and pre-teen girls who I saw at the Eaton Centre today, but their numbers are dwindling thanks to our efforts to make their behaviour socially unacceptable where we all live.

Creating good old fashioned calm, quiet and Canadian social disapproval for socially aberrant behaviour related to most stalking instead of just talking about stalking wasn't easy, but working together we have managed to make it happen more consistently for the better of all.

That means this Christmas and winter, instead of being chased by as many guys especially after dark and risking slipping and falling on black ice and possibly breaking something and so on, hopefully you will see more staying out of your way and minding their business, or even uniquely acknowledging you and giving your more room and privacy so you can relax and feel validated and possibly even validate them with your grace and femininity, which would be more empowering for both sexes.

One of my goals is to see both sexes win the stupid "Battle of the Sexes" which shouldn't be a "battle" at all.

By casually influencing the culture and having people casually and approvingly respond, it looks possible.

Again, the fight is not over and the root causes are still there, which should be a concern that spurs you to take action before it is too late.

For example, today at work, when a beautiful girl started flirting with me and casually getting my attention, it went well and other women started since they realized I was one of those guys they could do this with and we all started having sporadic fun.

However, when they started then a bunch of guys started trying the same thing, or trying to act like girls and get stared at for a longer than normal amount of time, hike up their pants like fake-skirts, show me their ass and copy more female body language.

Even when I expressed no interest at all to all of them repeatedly and looked away or at something else no matter which man it was and how often they tried, they still tried over and over again anyway while competing with each other to beat the rejection and made quite a humiliating spectacle of themselves which many people in the office noticed.

This made many of the other women furious and they alternated between pissed off looks and flirting with me both for fun and out of spite; others chose to retreat from the fray and stop flirting entirely since it became too uncomfortable to relax and have a bit of fun while getting work done with unfriendly competition.

I know that it is fun and easy to flirt to fight; that you ladies need the validation for the work you put in more than men need to give it to you; and that this is what you ladies often do about this unfortunate situation when almost nobody feels comfortable talking about it, or you flirt with a man doing something about it like you have for over a year now, namely me, or your defacto lawyer and bodyguard.

I also know that neither you nor I are homophobic, or we don't care if a guy is gay or a tranny or a femme'd out peacock-guy copying your girl-game well or whatever.

We only care if men try to bother people and literally try to compete with women for attention from a man they can flirt with even though he has clearly made his choice known.

This makes it much harder for women to relax and feel feminine and enjoy themselves in the company of men in general no matter how hard they try to look attractive and feel sexy, which sucks.

I assume this is the case elsewhere and that more women are even too afraid to flirt for fear of seeing men aggressively try to compete with them which is at differing times unsightly, depressing and dangerous.

To get out of this situation at work I did what I always have to do, which is speak up without speaking about it or to anyone specifically, or use allegorical ways to allude to what was happening and why it should stop.

Since I was feeling it anyway, I quietly quoted and sang some song lyrics in a voice that carries anyway:

"You know you're crazy, crazy,
You're (freakin') crazy, oh my..."


- Guns'n'Roses, "Crazy", (Appetite for Destruction)

and...

"So nobody ever told us baby, how it was going to be...
So what'll happen to us baby, guess we'll have to wait and see..."


and...

"I don't know how you're supposed to find me lately,
Or what more could you ask of me,
How could you say that I'd ever leave you?
When you took everything, said you took everything, from me..."


- Guns'n'Roses, "Estranged", (Use Your Illusion II)

Between that and a few other allegorical tricks to express how stupid it is to humiliate yourself in front of anyone who is not interested in physically admiring you by begging and bothering them to, the women casually understood why I had to (temporarily?) slow down in my formal efforts to shut this down downtown and the men finally saw and shamed each other into stopping from trying to get me to stare at them or look at their ass for the most part, which was good news for them and the women around as well.

"Talk to me softly, there's, something in your eyes,
Don't hang your head in sorrow, and please don't cry,
I know how you feel inside I, I've been there before,
Something is changing inside them, and don't you know...

Don't you cry, tonight, I still love you baby,
Don't you cry, tonight,
Don't you cry, tonight, there's a heaven above you baby,
Don't you cry, tonight..."


- Guns'n'Roses, "Don't Cry", (Use Your Illusion I / slightly paraphrased)

However, once again this leaves me in the awkward situation of having to take action in front of people who casually know me and wonder when or if it will have to happen again.

But, this is always why I speak up, or to clarify things that are happening that people are suffering with that they don't understand. Once I speak up they usually do and usually relax and feel better.

Nobody will say anything about this as usual, but everybody will probably casually react in different ways and treat me differently than before, which can be both a good and bad thing as usual. I am used to all this. 

I also noticed at the Eaton Centre and elsewhere over the last few months how exhausted you ladies were feeling from being chased and harassed by strange guys all day who were stalking you like bitchy-ugly chicks sometimes stalk hotter ones. I even mentioned it over and over again in public while you casually agreed.

Instead of feeling relaxed, bored and mischievous, or the perfect flirty-storm, you were mostly in the mood to relax when you saw me instead of show-off like you used to and didn't have the energy to have the fun you wanted with the limited time and options you have.

You were "getting the chick kicked out of you" as I called it and you agreed, but fortunately we managed to slow it down somewhat along with the other guys who agreed it that is was a bad idea for them to act like or turn into bitchy-ugly chicks who stalk hotter or any other ones.

However, since many men are competing with women to get men to look at them, what has ended up happening is now fewer women want to try to get looked at at for fear of seeing or dealing with these men acting like girls (or "Man-Girls") which is at-times depressing and unsightly and also potentially threatening because of the stalking and other jealous physical harassment issues.

I don't know what is worse: being harassed all day and night by men falling apart and turning into ugly, jealous and threatening women; or coming home to find out that your man is turning into one too.

Or, how much does it suck to see that your man is obsessed with getting other men to stare and him and his ass and copying female body language and - because not enough of his fellow men stare at him long enough and admire him like he's a woman -  probably jealously harasses other women all day and night too. 

Does this lead to less mutual respect?

Or possible "intimacy" issues and a crappier sex life?

What else?

This leads me to my request for financial support as well as the ongoing casual moral support and flirting to advance the relax and get along agenda and to keep us both in a good mood.

Marketers have known for a hundred years and possibly longer that if you get the women to agree then the men and children will usually follow to keep peace in the home and the land.

This has been true on a general social level to affect change in this area so far. 

Therefore, if it holds true financially then we are still in business.

For the time being I have basically had to give up and drop the whole thing for the last few weeks to make some money and look for ways to make more, including ignoring a few women at the Eaton Centre today throwing their classic playing with their hair gang-signs to signal for help while men were stalking them. This is just because nobody else will help them and I don't want to stand out that way anymore and prevent myself from being seen as "normal" unless people help me act "different" to change this "normal" garbage.

Unless I get independent and potentially anonymous financial support from people if that is preferred, then I need to act as normal as possible too and not help any more women in distress in ways discussed here in public to help shut it down. I need to act normal so that I can get normal jobs and preferably high-paying and interesting ones and keep them by continuing to ignore any women in trouble this way just like everyone else does.

Otherwise, even if more crazy stuff like this becomes normal, I won't be in the financial position to do anything but act normal and go along with it like everyone else does and feel more and more miserable as well. Being broke is a bigger sin for a man than harassing women all day and night these days, so besides being uncomfortable and pathetic and taking me out of the game one way or another as someone who has the balls and brains to get respect and results, it is also the end of the only noise being made about this that I know of loud enough to affect the situation for the better.

If I am unable to get financial support from women then I will have to stop helping them for free like I have for over a year just because it was the right thing to do and everybody was having trouble with it.

I am sorry if this seems harsh, but that sounds crazy to me since I have already earned my stripes and your trust on these issues over and over and over and over again. It happens every day.

I mean c'mon. Michael Phelps winning 74 gold medals or whatever is impressive, but what does it do for you? I have nothing against him or anyone else, I just want my credit too.

I would also like financial help from men to keep them from falling apart, feeling miserable and breaking themselves and others. But, while I am sure some will contribute just like the women do to say a karmic thanks and keep going, many are so used to doing things to themselves and others without thinking about it and getting away with it by having nobody stop them that they can routinely harass, threaten and physically intimidate each other and women and embarrass themselves and get away with it.

Since most men are generally too embarrassed to admit and confront what they are turning into and doing, they will probably be slower to come around and may just go along with their own destruction while breaking everyone and everything else if they aren't stopped. When men acting like girls bother each other in non-consensual ways it usually last for seconds, not minutes like when they are jealously stalking women.

On that note, which to my fine ear indicates a sense of urgency and purpose, I have details on how to donate to support me in supporting your cause below. If you have any other suggestions please get in touch.

If it happens then great.

If not, then nothing else probably will from my end because it is not fair to ask me to do everything about this and risk everything I have without being financially supported by the millions of people I have been helping when they were having trouble, including men and women mostly first in Ottawa and then most recently in Toronto.

When it happens then we are in business. 

Then, I will continue being an advocate for people in general in better and better ways.

In fact, a friend suggested a female co-host for a radio, TV or internet show on relationships would be a good idea and I agree. I just need to get financially stable enough to make this and more happen.

This method is about as easy as I can make this, or people throwing money into my bank account while I throw myself into cleaning up the mess being made of people in the 21st Century.

That way people don't have to formally address these issues with me, especially since they know I know a lot about them and may be uncomfortable responding since they don't or try not to think about them.

The way I work is simple: if you don't like what I am doing then you can generally ignore me; if you do then you can benefit; and either way you will benefit if more people are relaxed and getting along and in situations where they empower instead of disempower each other on a regular basis.

This is especially true as people see more and more of each other in crowded cities.

The streets, subways, buildings and buses and more are getting more and more crowded.

So, let's do our part to make sure that we make each other feel more and more comfortable.

I know how to help. Let's do this.

Warm regards,

Vij

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http://whatyouwanttobelievein.com/

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Public Speaker

Helping people out as a public speaker who shares good relationship advice with lots of people at once so they see each other and feel empowered enough to use it works. Hundreds a day say hello, which is why I continue. With no hat to take donations, people can simply donate anonymously to say thanks.

TD Bank Account Number: 3058-6062898

Patrons of the arts have always existed and today people often donate to support independent artists finishing albums and more. As someone who positively influences our culture by sharing ideas that help men and women relax and get along, I appreciate your help so that I can continue to evolve this approach.

Thank you very much and I look forward to hearing from you.

Yours,

Vij

Vijay Sarma
Ask Vij Consulting
647.781.1580
vijay.sarma@gmail.com
Helping you figure out... WhatYouWantToBelieveIn.com

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Tammy Wynette - Stand By Your Man

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http://youtu.be/DwBirf4BWew

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Tuesday, August 28, 2012

Q&A: Vijay Interviews BK / Confessions of a Counter-Psyoptomist / Revelation of the Method




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Q&A: Vijay Interviews BK / Confessions of a Counter-Psyoptomist / Revelation of the Method

Vijay Sarma interviews Black Krishna | Black Krishna Blog | August 28, 2012


VS: First off, how is it going man?

BK: Good, good. I mean, good and bad, but what am I supposed to say, right? I don’t want to put any pressure on you to be my therapist or make you uncomfortable, so I will say what I have to.

VS: You sound a bit defensive.

BK: Well, I guess defensive is better than being offensive, right?

VS: Sure, sure, speak in riddles why don’t you. Okay, let’s settle down and get into it: why the name?

BK: I wrote a rap song a few years ago called “Black Krishna” and while I was starting to perform music, at my first big event, even though I was still using my given name after experimenting with a few others. friends who came assumed that’s what I was using, so it or “BK” kind of worked and stuck.

VS: And you used “BK” for what?

BK: I used it as a rapper and singer, CKLN radio host, activist and local personality. Since I started delving into areas that weren’t commonly discussed and trying to “save the world” as it were, or at least figure out how people could do it so we could, I felt I could use an alias to express ideas that were valuable even if they weren’t normal and use my given name to continue to express normal. Lots of people in the hip hop world have a street-name that helps define them as opposed to their government or parent-given name, so it was a normal thing to have in some circles, especially artistic and activist ones where thinking differently was normal. It helped me be able to think differently, plus it helped protect my given name in Google searches for jobs and stuff. People knew when they were talking to BK they were hearing things that Vijay wouldn’t say, so it helped them relax and choose who they wanted to address and it was interesting for me to see who they would choose to speak with and for me to know how to respond to different people discussing things with me.

VS: But later on I see you started to use “Vijay” more often to express the same ideas.

BK: I felt it was harder for people to put me on in some circles when I was using an alias. For example, a reporter from The Metro who wanted to interview me with Toronto Truth Seekers when we were at our Saturday Street Actions at Dundas Square a few years ago. When she asked for my name and I gave her “BK” or “Black Krishna”, I could see her express her disappointment at being unable to sell it inside even if she wouldn’t say it. This is one of countless examples that are all slightly different. So, to give the people who wanted to help share these ideas more ability to do so and sometimes to give the ideas themselves more credit, I started using both names, which caused some confusion and to this day has cost me quite a bit. My street and given name are both out there saying many of the same things, including many things that people are scared to say which can make them scared of me. This is also why I sometimes distance myself from people who are distancing themselves from me, to protect them from having trouble dealing with something that I find myself being able to deal with more easily.

VS: What are you talking about?

BK: I am talking about the now commonly accepted “conspiracy” of super-rich people working together to screw the rest of us that people have been talking about forever as far as we know. The difference is I approach it like we can expose and beat it and them and have ways how, which can make people feel a bit uneasy if they don’t have the courage or strength to feel the same. As Leonard Cohen among others says, “Everybody Knows”, so that’s not really the hard part. The hard part is doing something about it, which is where I come in. I always wanted to win and get out, or at least make it normal for people to consider beating these guys before they beat us and settle into a more normal lifestyle while doing this on the side. If most adults put an hour a week into solving their political problems in the information war then we would beat these guys easily. I know why we have trouble, but again, that’s where I come in, to figure out how we could have less trouble so we could get on it. Otherwise we’ll lose, which should be unacceptable, especially at this stage with all that we know thanks in-part to being allowed to. After all, if our resolve is weakening, why is that and what will we have to put up with next?

VS: Okay, this sounds like it has been going on a while. Let’s fast-forward to today. What have you been up to that helps deal with this so-called “conspiracy” lately?

BK: Well, first of all let’s establish one thing: conspiracy is the most common charge in any court of law in the world, or conspiracy to commit fraud, theft, murder and so on. It just means two or more people planning to do something illegal or immoral in secret, which happens a bajillion times a day everywhere, so it’s not surprising to figure out that the reason people worldwide have the same concerns about the same problems regardless of who they elect to solve them is because people with lots of money and power don’t want them solved. If we don’t know who they are and we should, then that’s the conspiracy. Sometimes people can’t believe the super-rich are working together, but as I often say if you look at mafia movies among others, criminals know they can make more money working together to rob people instead of fighting to see who gets to, so that’s what they often do. I remember I think it was Michael Ruppert who said it’s like they’re at a casino poker game and while sometimes they’ll shoot each other under the table, nobody wants to upset the game because that’s how they all make their money. From what I can tell it’s something like that, or they’ll all turn on the people who expose the ways they’ve created or accepted of making money, ways that we are all supposed to accept as normal today. For example, people like The Bilderberg Group of 130 of the most powerful people in the world meeting every year for over 50 years to figure out how they want to run it went from not possibly existing to now obviously existing and being something that we should accept as normal. There’s tons of stuff like this out there that we can learn, the question is why we can learn it so easily today when it was so much harder to learn it before. The access to information is one thing, the interest in it and what we can do with it is another.

VS: And why do you think that is? Or why is there a ton of info about these things on the internet, why is the “Illuminati” such a hot topic and so on?

BK: As I said I think we’re supposed to learn just about everything and learn to accept it, or learn how to talk about it in ways that don’t enable us to deal with it, kind of like how in communist countries people know who’s in charge and how there is a double-standard of justice and opportunity, but accept that that’s the way it is and perhaps even supposed to be out of fear and so on. According to the Epoch Times there are even rich Chinese people who can pay poor people to take their jail-sentences for them and they do it so they can help support their families. This is apparently known and accepted while it is officially denied, but I wouldn’t be surprised if the West started doing the same thing soon especially if the global economy gets worse. To me and based on the work of others, it looks like the elite learned how people react to different things from social engineering experiments over the years in different countries and are combining them today. When you combine this with our history of being brainwashed by our education and media and poisoned by our food, air and water and so on and how much we know and accept most of it, it’s a powerful combination of things to react to. Again, I am not saying that we should give up, I am saying that we should find ways to innovate while we can to deal with it. Even if we lose, I would hate to see us feel miserable on the way or go down without a fight since that seems to be the plan, so that is a key concern.

VS: Alright, so what have you been up to lately to help us deal with this?

BK: Well, I go back and forth from trying to do stuff, failing and succeeding, taking it more or less seriously based on my interest and ability and what I think might be acceptable or cool, giving up and acting normal and joining the “system” again and so on. The reason is I know the normal learning curve for this information and what happens to most people who look into it, especially on isolating forums like the internet where you are all by yourself when dealing with it, or you often meet disposable “friends” online who you often just end up arguing with in ways that you would never think of doing in person. While I can’t be sure, I think it’s designed this way, or we are supposed to get into and out of it after we find it’s not practical to learn anything about it anymore since it is too hard to talk to people about it even though apparently millions of people worldwide are into it, at least if you trust YouTube and so on. So, I have been working on general empowerment strategies that appeal to all people so that we are in better shape to handle whatever, including our own issues and others’ in a general sense.

VS: And how has that been going?

BK: From what I can tell, good for everyone for the most part and good and bad for me, or at least that’s what I can tell from the “vibe” I am receiving, which is the only way I can tell when it comes to issues that everyone can understand but that almost no one can discuss. That means that when I discuss them in front of lots of people I get closer to everyone and further away from anyone, or everyone says hello in casual ways that seem to indicate they know what I am talking about while I am talking about it, or even otherwise, while a few say hello in different and formal ways that seem to ignore what I am usually talking about.

VS: What are you talking about?

BK: More specifically it is the fact that men were and are getting emasculated and feminized and were and are harassing each other for looks they didn’t want to give each other and physical closeness that was uncomfortable and stalking women at alarming rates like bitchy-ugly chicks who want to get looked at like hotter ones. At the same time, women were and are getting more masculine and aggressive and contributing to male disempowerment, which in-turn contributes to their own since it was in-part behind how men were acting when harassing them, something that empowered men don’t do. The reason I know this was and is happening is that I could see it. The reason I know nearly everyone else knows it’s happening is that I can say it in front of but not too nearly everyone nearly everywhere I go in this city and others and most people casually react and acknowledge that it is true. Because people had trouble discussing it, I ended up having to discuss it all the time wherever I could to stop it from happening. Keep in mind this wasn’t consensual stuff and the men doing this usually weren’t gay or tranny and I am not homophobic at all. This was just about people falling apart and acting weird and bothering each other for no good reason without thinking or making conscious choices as to what would make them feel happier and more relaxed. I felt that men and women routinely harassing and disempowering each other could not become normal and accepted without it being discussed, so I hope my discussing it in front of everybody I could without putting pressure on them to respond and people seeing each other agree that this behaviour is stupid helped to stop it from happening wherever I was and everywhere else, at least to some degree. I developed a third-person alpha male persona that speaks in a deeper voice to convey meaning that people don’t have to respond to and is the one that most people know, which is really an extension of my own kind of super-sized for practical reasons. This helps me call-out guys forcing themselves physically close to me when I don’t want them to and acting like girls when they don’t want to and when formally addressing them never gets me anywhere since they don’t verbally respond; plus it helps me stop stalkers from bothering girls without obligating them to verbally respond since they don’t want to while informing lots of people around us to help it stop elsewhere; plus it helps me talk to women in ways that don’t force them to verbally respond while sharing advice that can help them relax as well. Essentially I am able to share ideas that people appear to appreciate which help them relax and get along better without formally obligating them to communicate since they were having trouble communicating.

VS: And how has that been going?

BK: Except for the fact that this “job” doesn’t pay anything but the future, it has been going great and if I had the money I would continue and smoothly transition into a more formal approach as best I could with stuff that people have trouble talking about. Or, I will try to talk around it as well as I can and find the “normal” triggers to share that help shut down the nonsense. I fancy myself a silly little super-soldier when it comes to this stuff, or I can take the isolation on some levels and the massive amounts of fame at the same time, I just can’t take it without a fortune. I know when I started working different areas of the downtown Toronto core full time a few months ago, I went from saving girls from stalkers every 30 seconds to saving them every 30 minutes on average, so that’s a hell of an improvement and I am proud of that. Men are politely and briefly acknowledging me and each other and aren’t making each other miserable as often by trying to force each other to look at each other acting like girls. Women are more respectful and valuing of their relationships and realize it is better to like their man and others if given the opportunity than not and so on. Creating an “other” so people could see each other has cost me everything, but it seems to be paying off for the people where I live so that’s good news.

VS: Hmm… interesting. But if you like and need feedback, how do you keep going?

BK: Well, aside from lots of people saying hello and lots of women flirting with me because I know what I am doing so it is fun and they are generally supportive of my efforts on their behalf, I have lots of what I call personal trainers, mostly in the form of musicians in my mp3 player who keep me going and help give me energy and direction. I just add an updated and technical perspective to achieve what they’re talking about and help others do the same since they are people who nearly everyone else can relate to as well. This is also why I slowed down on making music myself, or the markets are less accepting than they used to be of revolutionary music, which includes both the system and people who listen, so I figured if better artists than me were doing their thing and having their impact, I would have to try something different and try to have a different impact in many ways where I live. When I hear Lupe Fiasco’s “Words I Never Said” and Skylar Grey singing the hook, I love it and it reminds me of what might happen if I didn’t speak up and try to stop people from disempowering each other. Again, if I didn’t see it working then I would have stopped, which means both people saying hello to me and people not bothering each other as often and relaxing and getting along better. Since I was tracking this in similar ways to municipalities doing studies I could tell, plus when I tell people to notice it they do, or they realize they are not as routinely stressed-out by strangers as they used to be, so that’s a plus.

VS: Alright, final question: what do you need to finish what you are doing?

BK: Well, it sounds cliché and I hate to ask, but I need people to support me by donating money to help me do what they can’t, or talk about and deal with things they can’t in ways they accept that have an impact, otherwise I will have to stop. I have made it easy by putting my bank account number on my consulting website and asking the bank if, as a performance artist, I can take anonymous donations from people this way and they said I can. I am not sure how to proceed at this point since I don’t have the resources to continue and have stopped, yet will have some trouble finding and keeping jobs because of how I put my name and face out there as a martyr of sorts and making it too hard on co-workers if they know. So, if I am working I will have to slow down or stop depending on what needs to be done and what I can do. Plus, I really want to be able to pay to do more “normal” stuff to better understand people and build my “normal” credibility, or show people I can act normal and enjoy what they are enjoying since I want to and do instead of worrying about my cash-flow and sticking to speaking, yelling, rapping, singing and saving girls from stalkers, or using myself as a human shield against what I think might be The Man trying to turn us into animals, though I don’t look or get into it much since it is yet another thing people have trouble discussing. Wherever I go people solicit my attention to say hello even if they are not in front of me to help support me, which is very gratifying based on the position I am in. As long as the people who benefit from my efforts improving social conditions in their city support me then I can continue, otherwise I will have to stop again regardless of what happens just to survive and ignore most things I see, even if it is tons of people falling apart and breaking others. The only time I really lose my cool doing this is when I am worried about money, which means I am less effective and less able to positively influence people. Frankly if my interest was in money more than people than I would have never bothered with this stuff, but since I did I figure the people I have been helping can help me out in small ways while I help them enjoy the big city they live in more than they otherwise would. If it doesn’t happen then I will be fine and work stuff out, but if it does then I can continue dealing with things to make it easier for everyone else to, which has been my goal.

VS: Alright, it sounds like you have a lot on your plate so I want to thank you for your time.

BK: Hey, I always make time for the people and it has been my pleasure.

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Helping people out as a public speaker who shares good relationship advice with lots of people at once so they see each other and feel empowered enough to use it works. Hundreds a day say hello, which is why I continue. With no hat to take donations, people can simply donate anonymously to say thanks.

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Thank you very much and I look forward to hearing from you.

Yours,

Vij

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